Stress

Most of the time, most people just put up with their stress. Sometimes, though the stress doesn’t go and becomes long term. Short-term stress happens when you face unforeseen events or challenges that disrupt your plans or expectations. The stress comes about because you believe something should be one way but it isn’t that way and an inner battle is created. Examples of short-term stress include getting stuck in traffic, losing your keys, receiving an unexpected bill, disagreeing with a loved one, or missing a deadline. All of these stresses may affect your well-being.

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The minute you accept the situation, short-term stress disappears. While in the stressful state you will often hear the stressed person say, ‘I don’t believe it’, or ‘Is that for real?’ Or ‘You can’t be serious’. All phrases point to the inner battle of not accepting the way things are.

 As soon as the situation is accepted the stress disappears. Short-term stress is vulnerable to talking about the situation. Even talking to strangers in the form of counsellors can be helpful because expressing what you think often forces it into a more logical and coherent form and can change your viewpoint.

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Long-term stress occurs when short-term stress doesn’t get resolved. Long-term stress occurs because you feel you have to fight against the situation you are in. For example, long-term stress could come about through living in a noisy, chaotic or unsafe environment, The stress comes from fighting the perceived situation. It could be being underpaid while struggling to make ends meet, caring for a loved one with a disability or living with a culture of bullying. Each of these stresses appears because you feel you have to fight to just stay stable. These stresses appear to be created by external events but that is not and is never the case. External events exist which can allow you to pin the stress on them but the external events are not the cause. They appear to be the cause but it is always possible to remove the stress without changing the external situation. That is not to say it is acceptable to create a situation to make another person experience stress. Consciously causing another person stress points to a serious illness in the person causing the stress.

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Stress removal

One of the first questions I ask someone who comes to me complaining of stress is ‘How do you know you are stressed?’

And they generally answer by reeling off their symptoms. Symptoms such as sleeplessness, difficulty breathing, fatigue, headaches, high blood pressure, indigestion and so on. But I say, ‘These are the symptoms of stress, they are not what tells you, you are stressed.’

When you look at what tells you, you are stressed it is always the same thing. There is a physical tension somewhere in your body. This tension is caused by an inner battle or contradiction, as explained in Chapter 5. Your mind creates the inner contradiction as a way of holding on to the conflicting viewpoints about yourself without them clashing. The cause of your stress is this tension, not the symptoms.

The solution is the resolving of the tension. Nothing needs to change in the external world for you to be free from stress. Physical exercise can sometimes temporarily remove stress because it resolves the physical tension. Unfortunately, that tension generally comes back quite quickly after experiencing the external ‘stressor’.

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Once the physical tension that tells the patient they are stressed has been identified and written on the trauma ticket the practitioner is ready to remove this sensation. The sensation is a physical manifestation of their distorted life force. When this sensation is processed, they don't feel stressed any more.

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The next stage is for the practitioner to feel the sensation that causes the stress. When the practitioner connects with the patient and the patient connects with the sensation that tells them they are stressed, the practitioner can also feel it and will know how to process that stress sensation. The sensation isn't just removed, it is processed. The practitioner knows how to do this because that is what they are trained to do.

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You process the physical sensation that tells them they are stressed by allowing the sensation to complete its purpose and it returns to a still point. The patient’s tendency has been to actively stop that process from happening because stopping it felt better than allowing it to continue its movement. This is the heart of the stress, the inner conflict. However, when they allow the movement to complete and the patient is resting in a still point there is no stress, they are cured. This is a complete and proper cure. No talking is necessary and nothing has to change in the external world. Taking the stress sensation to a still point is all that is necessary. During this process the patient comes to see their inner conflict and resolve it.

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You don’t need to talk about the contradiction for hours on end and you can probably resolve the stress in ten minutes or less. I have done this for thousands of people and taught hundreds to do it for themselves.

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I review this process later in this chapter: Processing an event or trauma.

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See for yourself

Let’s create a fictitious situation to see how stress affects you and then walk through the process of removing it. First, we need to build the stress. Let’s do this with an imaginary bill that unexpectedly arrives. The amount can be of your choice but make it an amount where it makes you catch your breath. This will vary from person to person. Fix the amount and then multiply it by three! Understand you have to pay it off in the next few weeks or something very serious will happen.

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Build it up until you can feel the physical tension. Even just using your imagination, you might be able to see how it could be responsible for stress symptoms. Especially if you took sole responsibility for it and were too embarrassed to tell anyone. Imagine walking around with that tension all day preying on your mind. As the days pass the stress becomes greater.

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This is the power of the I-force working against your life force. Can you see that if one of your symptoms was sleeplessness taking a sleeping pill would never remove the stress? Or if you have difficulty breathing, a diagnosis of asthma and the consequent inhaler would fail to touch the stress even if it did remove the symptom. The symptoms of sleeplessness or difficulty breathing are pointers to the problem, not the problem itself. Taking a medication that helps the symptom but leaves the stress focusses the problem on the wrong area and stops the person getting better. This is the problem with Western medicine.

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Back to the example. So how do you resolve the stress without paying the bill? Paying the bill will relieve the stress but the stress isn’t coming from the lack of money, the stress is coming from the interaction of your I-force and life force and that is what needs to change for the stress to go and not come back. Of course, stress can be useful, galvanising you into action, as long as it is short-lived. But I would suggest that if you were going to get something done you would be more efficient if you don’t have to also contend with the symptoms of stress. Being tired or worried about your breathing does not make you more efficient. Fear doesn’t make you smarter.

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The first step in resolving the stress is to find the internal cause. That is why I ask, ‘How do you know you are stressed?’ I am trying to get the patient to focus on the physical tension that they are using to keep their inner contradiction from clashing. The clashing is their I-force and the life force fighting. In our example, the contradiction is the demand for money and the inability to pay. This battle causes the stress and its resultant symptoms.

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My skill, if I have any, is that I have trained myself to feel this inner battle. Practically, it is easier to feel it in another person than it is to feel it in yourself. Being able to feel the life force and I-force battle is key to resolving it in another person, as I will explain in a moment. First I want to talk about stress’s big brothers: trauma and PTSD.

 

Trauma and Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

Trauma occurs when the capacity of the mind to process information is exceeded. Another word for this situation is ‘overwhelm’. It happens when the mind is shocked by the amount or quality of information. An example of slowly induced trauma is when a child is neglected by their parents or a person is regularly bullied.

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When the overwhelming incident is over, if the trauma processing continues and gets completed, there will be no PTSD but if the processing is stopped before it has finished, conflict in the mind will remain. You and your life force will continue to search for opportunities to fully process the trauma while another part (I-force) will try and stop that from happening. This is the conflict talked about in chapter 5.

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These opportunities to process the trauma are places and times that appear safe for the person. The mind then replays the trauma to allow processing of it to complete. This can get called a flashback or panic attack and, unfortunately, is rarely seen as a chance to finish processing the difficult incident because they usually contain too much information, arriving too quickly. Attempts are often made to suppress these panic attacks or flashbacks but this is what keeps them in place. For many, these panic attacks appear to arrive randomly but they don't. They occur in a place and at a time when the patient is relaxed and, as far as the limited perception of the mind is concerned, able to complete the task.

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Without understanding that traumas need to be processed, treating them with medication, or even counselling, will fail or take an exceedingly long time. Processing must be achieved but it doesn't have to be difficult or painful. The patient doesn't have to repeat their traumatic experience to process the events. Indeed, if they do repeat their traumatic experience and it fails to fully process the patient may end up in a worse state. 

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If the processing of a traumatic memory isn't completed then the patient will remain in a traumatised state until the memory is processed. Human beings can compartmentalise traumas and can temporarily, hide them away. At first sight, this appears to be a good thing because you can get on with your life, saving the problem to be dealt with later. The trauma, though, won’t stay in its box. The mind wants to heal it and waits for a time when they are relaxed and able to complete the task. Whenever the trauma breaks out of its box a panic attack, or similar, will ensue.

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If it is contained in its box, the distortion in the flow of life force will eventually transform the mental/emotional problem onto the physical level, possibly as an inflamed joint, encapsulated cyst or tumour. Before this happens there will be indicators that something is wrong and needs to be addressed. Ignoring these messages, or medicating them, will only get the body to ‘turn up the volume’ and make the symptoms worse so that you listen. Symptoms are your body’s way of talking to you. Of course, the mind and body can process events over time, just by letting time pass, but this is generally a slow, passive process. It is better to respond to messages from your body by dealing with them directly. 

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Processing a traumatic event can be stopped by effort of will, by distraction, by other people, by drugs, including anaesthetic, or by another similar incident. But when it is regularly stopped it becomes a more complex conflict that can be extremely difficult to process. 

Trauma can come about for many reasons. I personally only released the trauma from my birth in my thirties but I believe it would have stayed there my whole life if I hadn’t identified it and cleared it. At that time, I cleared most of it using a technique called re-birthing. Despite its name re-birthing can be used for releasing any trauma. It is more efficient than talking therapies but it is still not as efficient as the Boulderstone Technique.

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To make things worse, traumas can also be caused before birth either because a trauma occurred to the mother while pregnant or because a medical procedure was performed on the foetus. Talking therapies are of virtually no use here but the distortion in the flow of life force is real, it can be felt by another person, and it can be undone. Proving this scientifically would, however, be a challenge.

I have treated thousands of people with traumas that have occurred in many different ways from the shock of losing a parent or sibling to sexual, emotional or physical abuse, as well as shock from witnessing abuse. Anytime the ability of the mind to process information is exceeded, a trauma can be created. Traumas are often created in hospitals, as a patient or even as a visitor, on battlefields, in road traffic accidents, but also in places like cinemas. 

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Horror films deliberately try to create a trauma in people because a trauma-inducing film can also be an antidote to a previous similar trauma. This could explain why horror films can become addictive and some people gravitate towards traumas they have already experienced.

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Every single trauma that I have described can be felt by another person as a physical sensation, if they know what they are looking for. This is the key to removing PTSD without talking or medication, in a very short time, with a Boulderstone Technique practitioner. And it usually takes less than a day. Complex PTSD can sometimes take two days. If you do not have access to a Boulderstone Technique practitioner you could try to use the technique on yourself. You will find a self-administered version in the appendix, although I would recommend working by yourself only for simple traumas, not for complex PTSD.

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A distortion in the flow of life force can be felt by a Boulderstone Technique practitioner. What can also be felt is the use of anaesthetic after an operation. It feels like anaesthetic creates gaps in awareness and could be labelled as a negative trauma. Negative traumas are virtually impossible to remove with a talking therapy because the mind finds it difficult to talk about something that doesn’t appear to be there. Actually feeling a negative trauma is possible, though, and can be removed using the Boulderstone Technique. Recreational drugs, including alcohol, can fall into this ‘anaesthetic’ category but can also cause a standard trauma just by poisoning the body. ‘Flashbacks’ of negative trauma could be spacing out, losing concentration, losing the ability to stay focussed, ADD type symptoms.

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Physical trauma

Another form of trauma that can be felt as a distortion in the flow of life force is physical trauma. A case that comes to mind was that of a young dog that was running across a field when it got its foot caught in a rabbit hole. I was quite surprised that the dog hadn’t broken its leg, the injury was that severe, but an X-ray had found the bones intact. I saw the animal a few days after the accident when the owner felt the dog should have been improving and it wasn’t. I held the foot and felt life force distortion. I allowed the bones to move in the way they wanted to, which was an incredibly difficult thing to do as the dog was certainly in distress. I held firm realising that the pulling away from pain was stopping the injury from getting better. As I followed the life force movement through the pain difficulty we came out the other side and a still point was reached. The dog walked off happy and restored to health. 

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Having pain can often keep a problem in place, be it mental, emotional or physical. I have since worked on many different physical problems, seeing very stuck problems getting resolved in seconds, usually putting my hands on the injured part of the body. Problems sorted have been strains, sprains, arthritis, dislocations, twists, shingles and even mosquito bites.

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