Chapter 3: Causes and cases

The case of Charlie

I saw Charlie for the first time when he was 16. He came in with his mother, and my first impression was that he seemed a nice person if a bit surly. My opening question to most patients is ‘On a scale of 0 to 100, how happy are you?’ After a little bit of contemplation, Charlie answered 62. This I considered low but his mother piped up that he was in the middle of exams and we should expect it to be low.

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Charlie's main problem, as far as his mother was concerned, was that he was always getting into fights with his younger sister and, being older and stronger, he was hurting her.

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So I got Charlie on the couch, held his head, tuned into his life force, and asked out loud a series of questions that might help point me (and him) to his problem or problems. In Charlie’s case it soon became clear he only had one problem. As I asked about school, his tension increased and when I asked about exams, in particular, he tensed up even more. I couldn't do anything about him having exams, but I could do something about Charlie's reaction to them. And so I set about removing the tension that came up when he thought about his upcoming exams. This felt to me like PTSD, something I have encountered with many patients, and after working with it for about five minutes, I felt there was no stress left. He went home and he stopped getting into fights with his sister.

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Was this a good outcome? How can we tell? His mother was happy with the outcome, and presumably, his sister was as well. Charlie was relieved his stress had lessened. It was a good outcome all round, as far as it went.

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However, if you believe this was a good outcome, you have fallen into the same trap that Western medical practitioners fall into after giving a medicine that appears to ‘work’ and that is believing that removing the symptom is the same as removing the problem. It isn’t. What we haven’t done is go back to the baseline and asked how happy he is now. If he says 95 or higher I have probably helped as much as I can at the moment. However, he told me his happiness quotient had gone up from 62 to 75. There was more to do, but he didn’t know what else was wrong. So, I was left with a situation where the patient couldn’t articulate what his problem was.

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Talking about problems is only useful to certain people. But because I am feeling a distortion in the flow of life force, talking about the problem isn’t always necessary. I already had enough information to work with. Charlie said he was only 75% happy and so that unhappiness was my new starting point.

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At the next appointment things with his sister had settled down and he wasn’t getting into fights. And so, on the couch, I asked Charlie to focus on the ‘only feeling 75% happy’. And he did. I could feel the restriction and knew something wasn’t right. There was an I-force block, which I got Charlie to focus on. We stayed with the problem until the life force started to move through it and clear it. The I-force block started resolving and over the next few minutes, Charlie completely cleared it. My role was to keep him focussed while the life force did its job. When there was no life force disturbance left Charlie went home. I didn’t hear from him for a while.

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I later found out that Charlie had finished his exams and had left school. At this point, he was finally able to articulate that he didn’t like school, that it had made him very unhappy. In fact, he had always disliked it but because he thought it was compulsory and he therefore didn’t have a choice about going, he had never mentioned it.

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So what do I really do? I teach people to find the still point within themselves and when they can’t find it because it is disturbed by the I-force, I look for the block that is in the way, I teach people to stay focussed and follow the life force to stillness.

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You could argue that to get an education you have to stay at school even if it means that you’re going to be unhappy - this is a situation many young people find themselves in. I would argue that being happy is the best education anyone could have. That doesn’t mean running away to do something frivolous and avoiding responsibilities. That isn’t happiness. Happiness means you can sit in a still point knowing there is no inner voice saying “I should have done this” or “I could have done that”.

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Happiness doesn’t mean you are continually laughing; it means that you know everything is alright, and nothing is out of place, meaning the I-force isn’t fighting your life force. But fighting isn’t necessarily a problem. You might be a professional boxer fighting in the ring. If you can remain in a still point then fighting is what you should be doing. Regardless of whether you are fighting or not, happiness is when you are in a still point.

 

The case of Jo

Between the ages of seven and nine Jo was sexually abused by her father. After more than fifty years it still affected her. It made relationships difficult. Her brothers and sisters wouldn’t agree on whether it happened or if it happened then perhaps she should consider herself lucky! It was all messed up. Messed up then and messed up now. But why is it messed up now, fifty years later? What holds the problem in place? Can it ever be sorted out or must the survivor continue to suffer for as long as she lives?

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The story isn’t the problem (the story is never the problem)

For way too long Western medical counsellors have focussed on the story of the problem. The story is what happened to the patient. The patient may be reluctant to talk about it because it brings up difficult emotions or they may be eager to talk about it but, either way, the solution doesn’t lie in keeping the story hidden or relating the story, however much counsellors think it does. The problem doesn’t need to be told, instead it needs to be processed. It is true that sometimes this can be achieved by just talking about it. But this way is inefficient since words can only express what has happened when they are spoken by skilled people. It is time-consuming because talking about it can take months or years and sometimes it can even be re-traumatising.

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I believe the real problem, and the reason the problem is kept in place, is the ego’s fear of the overwhelm. As a result an I-force structure is created that protects the ego from this overwhelm. The ego’s fear of overwhelm is what needs to be addressed. The truth is we can all cope with whatever is thrown at us, that is the bottom line. But if we are inexperienced in processing complex and/or traumatic problems, there is a tendency to freeze, to jam things up, so that nothing moves. We keep the problem in place through our I-force. We get stuck.

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The ego believes it can stop itself suffering by using the I-force to freeze the processing. It is true that if the ego freezes everything it won’t feel the difficulty but, unfortunately, this also stops the processing of the problem. In other words by resisting the feelings of the problem, the problem gets held in place and it remains unresolved. So, what is to be done?

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If I can monitor the amount of overwhelm experienced by the patient and know how to slow it down whenever it starts to get too much, I can direct the patient to work through the trauma in a comfortable way.  If I can couple this with maintaining a still point, it can keep the patient on track with an overview. It is then possible to clear problems completely at the speed of the patient’s thoughts. I can do this because I can feel both the life force and I-force of the patient.

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Jo complete

Jo needed one session to undo the trauma of her past, including coming to terms with how her family treated her. They didn’t need to be present, she did it on her own. Jo came back to see me twice more to check that things were sorted and to clear up some minor things that came to light after the major trauma was processed. We are still in touch but I don’t expect that aspect of her past to cause her any more troubles. It is resolved and she has found a still point. Once you have found the still point in a trauma you can return to it more easily. 

It is the close contact of connecting with a patient’s life force and I-force and maintaining a still point that is the difference with my therapy. This knowledge allows the speed with which a patient can clear themselves to be regulated by the patient’s speed of thought. I don’t make suggestions as to how the patient has to behave or think or tell them to ‘go to their special place’. All of that will get done automatically by the patient, silently and intuitively. I don’t have to ask the patient to tell me their story. Very few words need to be spoken. Healing takes place on a life force/I-force level. It is beyond language.

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Any symptom can have any cause

A patient may go to a Western medical doctor saying 'my head hurts' and get pain killers, or they might say 'I can’t sleep' and get sleeping pills, or 'I have a fever' and get antibiotics, or say 'I’m anxious' or 'I can’t stop crying' and get anti-depressants. The doctor’s pills may make the symptoms go away, but that doesn’t necessarily mean the patient is cured, or even that their health has improved. 

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The hurting head could be the result of the fear of losing a job or grief. The sleeplessness could be the result of grief or hating life as it is. The fever could be the result of hating life or anger. The anxiety could be the result of anger and fear of losing a job. Any symptom can have any ‘cause’. But while the symptom may point to the cause, it isn’t the cause itself.

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Mental and emotional problems often precede physical symptoms but that doesn’t mean they are the primary cause of the illness. They also have a cause.

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Remove the real cause and the problem goes away

I have found that once the real cause of any illness (including anxiety, depression, migraines, sleeplessness, fever or even a swollen knee or an ulcer) has been removed, then the illness also goes away. When all egos are out of the way, the body and mind heals itself. 

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Illness, both physical and mental, is described by its symptoms but is only cured by dealing with its root cause and that cause is the distortion in the flow of life force. In the following pages I will try to show how this very simple cause exists for all illnesses and once that is removed it leads to a resolution of symptoms and cure of the illness itself.

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There is no doubt that science took the healing art out of a dark place. Medical science has its place but human beings react differently to the same stimulus. If we did all react in the same way, like machines, then medical science would have been able to eradicate all our symptoms without introducing new ones. Medical scientists tend to look at things on a microscopic level rather than taking an overview. Medical scientists don’t fully understand what elements are needed to create a living being. If they did they would have been able to artificially create life and that hasn’t happened. There is more to human beings than science has so far discovered. Human beings, and all living things, have something in them that has so far managed to elude science. That something may be the life force.

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Medical scientists are given problems to solve, and they solve them but, while they don’t use the life force, they don’t have the complete picture. For example, it is relatively easy to say that Multiple Sclerosis is caused by demyelination of nerve cells because that is what mechanically happens. So, a medical scientist will look for a way to stop the demyelination. What they haven’t understood is that the demyelination has a cause that is connected to the I-force. Without this knowledge, all ‘cures’ that stop demyelination will only be half the story and ultimately fail.

 

The case of Chris (in his own words)

I was working as a sheep farmer, in June 1998, and it was time to worm the sheep. I put the plastic container on my back, full of the usual pesticide. I had to squirt a measure of it into each sheep’s mouth. Unfortunately, unknown to me, the container was leaking for about an hour and a half before I realised that it had soaked through all my clothes and onto my back and down my legs. I changed my clothes, washed the chemical off myself, and carried on with my work.

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I became seriously unwell. I had a metallic taste on my tongue, a sore throat and a tremendous thirst. I needed to drink three or four pints of water every hour around the clock, as nothing would slake my thirst. I could only breathe about 80%. It felt like my lungs just wouldn’t inflate. My thighs, calves and biceps hurt like hell and my muscles just wouldn’t work. Nothing could relieve the pain, not moving or staying still. I had no energy to talk and couldn’t feed myself or go to the bathroom. One of the worst things was I couldn’t sleep although I was desperately tired so there was no respite. I stayed awake all day and all night. I had a headache and a bad cough and assumed I must have a serious bout of flu. I was off work for three days, then gradually recovered over 2 or 3 months, until I wormed the sheep again.

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Again, I went down with a bang, this time needing a full week in bed, with the same symptoms as before, and needing even longer to recover. I still didn’t connect the illness with the sheep wormer. This reaction happened every time I wormed the sheep, needing to take more time off in bed and longer to recover each time. Each time I lost a full stone in weight, which I managed to put back on afterwards. This continued for 4 years. 

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Finally, in 2002, I went to a London hospital to see if they thought it could be the sheep wormer making me ill and to see if anyone could help. Off the record, they told me it almost certainly was the pesticide, but they couldn’t acknowledge this on record as they received so much funding from the drug company that made the pesticide!

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All they could suggest was that I stay away from all chemicals and get plenty of fresh air, exercise and a good diet.

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Well, fresh air didn’t cure the problem. When the same symptoms occurred again, I was more ill than ever. I was sceptical about trying alternative medicine, but desperate enough to try anything, as by now I felt I was at death’s door. When I first turned up at The Boulderstone Technique clinic I was so dazed I hardly knew where I was. I was so weak I couldn’t get out of the car and walk, so the practitioner had to treat me in the car.

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After this first treatment, I felt somewhat better. I finally managed to sleep for a couple of hours which felt like a miracle. It was the first time I had been able to sleep in 6 or 7 days. I came back the following day. The second treatment was like turning a light switch on. My energy came flooding back and I felt so much better.

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I went from strength to strength until I got my old strength back.

(End of Chris’s statement.)

 

What had happened was that Chris’s body had detected that it was being poisoned with sheep dip. In this situation, its first job was to ensure Chris’s survival. It struggled but ultimately it found a way.  However, the reaction was extreme, it needed to be, and every time the body thought it saw the problem happening again it went into defence mode and overreacted. We all do it. If something life-threatening happens to us we remember the situation and know how to react. But the detection of chemical bug killer wasn’t the problem. The problem was the overreaction, the I-force doing a little too much. It discovers a poison in the air and screams ‘ARRGH’.

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The overreaction, by the I-force, comes about because something isn't processed and leaves a shadow that can get re-stimulated by similar triggers. In the next chapter, this idea is used in the definition of health.

 

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